I’ve been like a kid at Christmas about this. I simply couldn’t wait to find out if baby Politano was a boy or girl. So, ultrasound day came. The tech showed me the screen, and before she said a word, I said, “it’s a boy, isn’t it?” (with a little disappointment, admittedly).
“I think so,” she said with a smile.
It was so obvious. I mean, I could even see the boy part right on the screen (even though it didn’t show up in the picture). No question. “Oh yeah, I’m 110% sure, this is a boy,” she says.
Ok so, we announce this news to our family, prepare the nursery for a boy, and I get talked into how great having a boy is. My wonderful friends tell me the joys of having little boys that melt mom’s heart. And in the midst of my initial disappointment, the wonderful Staci even helped me pick out the cutest boy things to fill my registry with. She was like God’s vessel for expanding my heart, softening it toward His will, and letting go of whatever ideals I had for my first child. (Honestly, I did need this, too. I’d lost sight of God’s sovereignty in these little details, so–thanks Staci for helping me with that) 🙂
I began to relax into the idea of being what my brother called a “boy mom.” I could do this.
And then comes the anatomy scan. “It’s a boy, right?” I ask.
She pinches her lips.
“Right?”
Big sigh. “If I had to guess, even with this uncooperative baby not showing much, I’d say girl.”
What??! Ok, my heart was pounding at this point. Was it possible? Baby boy Politano was actually a girl?? Oh, how I’d hoped to hear those words a month ago at the first scan. But no, I thought. Don’t get your hopes up either way. She’s not sure.
“I’m looking pretty closely, and I don’t see any boy parts. In fact, I think this right here is a girl part. But… baby won’t turn over enough for me to be sure.” She said she was 55% sure it was a girl.
Wow! Ok, so I let it drive me crazy for a while. A long while. Like… many hours (ok, longer than that). Finally, weeks later, I talk to the first ultrasound tech and say, “Your 110% sure analysis was well… doubted.” Ok, she says, I want to look again. She pulls up my baby on her screen, and immediately the brows are furrowed. I blink and study the screen. There is NO boy part. None whatsoever. And baby looks…. well, rather like a girl, from what the tech points out.
All I can think of is little boy chocolate kisses, hilarious giggles and everything I’d been looking forward to. I wasn’t going to get my little boy?? I couldn’t believe it. I looked at the nurse. “What happened? Did it just… fall off?” After concealed bouts of laughter, she shook her head, and explained different things I could have been seeing before. This time, baby cooperated. We could clearly see this was no boy. I walked out of there in shock, carrying this:
God had to remind me that He knew what was best for my little family, even if I had my own ideas. A lesson I should have already known, right? I mean, that’s so basic. But… sometimes in my excitement I can derail a little bit from where I should be. After all this, you know what? I’m excited for EITHER! God really taught me a few basic things… and then He gave me the original desire of my heart. 🙂
OHHHH!! How exciting! Doing the happy dance right now!! Either way that is one blessed baby. You are going to be a wonderful Mommy. Congrats!!
Thanks Stacey!! 🙂 I’m looking forward to it, but I’m sure I’ll be asking for advice from my britcrit girls…. a LOT! 🙂
Way cool….. I mean really PINKY cool!!!!
I agree! I couldn’t have been more surprised… the first tech was so sure!
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I know this was awhile back obviously, but what ultrasound did they say boy? Also what ultrasound did they tell you girl?
I think it was the 20 week ultrasound where they said boy, then the next time my doc did a quick check they said they thought it was a girl!
Hey there!
I’m so grateful for this post. I am currently pregnant with my first and so blessed. We tried for a boy, did gender sway, I even had so many dreams about my precious baby boy. Ultrasound came at 20 weeks, and they said “it’s a baby girl!” My husband and I were not anticipating that news, nor were we excited at first. I felt guilty for crying/mourning my desired baby boy. A month later, we look at the potty shot and we are still not convinced. I still currently believe in my gut that it’s a boy. But I’ve accepted that it is a girl. I will not lie, I hope the doctors are wrong. But I know that God isn’t a wish granter.
Your story gave me hope, but the will to accept whatever comes!
Oh, HUGE congratulations!! Your first baby is so exciting. I totally hear you on the gender disappointment, and the shock of it not being what you expected. To be honest, it’s more common that they say “girl” and it becomes “boy” later, than my story, which is the reverse. So you never know! 😉 But either way, when that baby comes out looking a little bit like you, a little bit like your husband, with traces of each personality… you’ll be in love.
If you think of it, I’d love an update when you find out for sure!!